Psychology Takeaway Podcast

You’ve Decided to Get Help. Now What?

So… you’ve hit that point. You’ve had enough. The “I’m fine” mask is slipping, and suddenly the idea of talking to someone who isn’t your dog or your group chat sounds kind of appealing. But where do you even start?

In this follow-up to last week’s episode (“Why Don’t People Just Go Into Therapy?”), Jim and Ralph get real—and a little ridiculous—about what actually happens when you do decide to get help. They break down the basics of finding a therapist, what kinds of support exist (hint: it’s not just lying on a couch), how to deal with roadblocks like cost or fear, and what to do if the first therapist isn’t a good fit.

Plus: therapy myths busted, what to say in that awkward first message, and why your mental health deserves more than duct tape and denial.

In this episode:

• The moment you realize it’s time for help
• How to find a therapist (without losing your mind)
• What if you don’t “click” with them?
• Free and low-cost options for therapy and support
• Why therapy isn’t the only path—and what else might help

Whether you’re ready to book a session or still hovering over the “contact” button, this one’s for you.

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Resources Mentioned:

• PsychologyToday.com
• TherapyDen.com
• 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
• Local community mental health centers
• University counseling programs and clinics

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💬 Got a question, a topic suggestion, or a therapy horror story?
Email us at carro1jl@cmich.edu

LEARN MORE:

 

This Ted Talk by Martin Seligman might calm your anxiety about therapy: https://youtu.be/9FBxfd7DL3E?si=R8F3eRYZvUfSG7A4

 

How to find a good therapist: https://youtu.be/j-GinhKL1-k?si=daUdnzbD6ewP0ogU

 

The book Reality Therapy might help you help a child or adolescent overcome social or emotional problems: https://a.co/d/024sCDh

Why Don’t People Just Go to Therapy When They need it?! (Part 1)

 

In this episode of Psychologytakeaway, Jim and Ralph—two actual psychologists, not just guys with microphones—dig into the surprising and often frustrating reasons why so many people avoid or delay getting therapy. From the weight of stigma to the myth that “it’s not that bad,” they explore the internal and social barriers that keep people from seeking help—even when they need it most. Expect real talk, a few laughs, and zero judgment as they unpack the psychology behind not going to a psychologist. Part one of a two-part series

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The Enigma of Stigma: Redefining The Way We Talk About Mental Health: https://www.ted.com/talks/sophie_riegel_the_enigma_of_stigma_redefining_the_way_we_talk_about_mental_health?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

Mental illness can be tough to talk about, and yet, if we are going to reduce the stigma, we need to encourage honest, open dialogue. This talk shares the ways in which we may unconsciously perpetuate stigma and offers language that inspires safe and supportive conversation.

There's no shame in taking care of your mental health: https://www.ted.com/talks/sangu_delle_there_s_no_shame_in_taking_care_of_your_mental_health?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

When stress got to be too much for TED Fellow Sangu Delle, he had to confront his own deep prejudice: that men shouldn't take care of their mental health. In a personal talk, Delle shares how he learned to handle anxiety in a society that's uncomfortable with emotions. As he says: "Being honest about how we feel doesn't make us weak -- it makes us human."

You might find the book by Jerry Fuller and Jim on Reality Therapy helpful: you can read a sample at : https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F3LB14VH

 

 

 

 

Curious Kids - Part Two

This episode follows up on something we sort of stumbled on last week – helicopter parenting. Jim and Ralph discuss what it is and some of the long term negative consequences.

They continue with tips on parenting a curious kid.

If you want an ecopy of their soon-to-be-released book on the subject, take a look below at LEARN MORE.

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If you're looking for active, well-regarded educational YouTube channels for curious kids, here are some widely recommended options:

• SciShow Kids: Fun science videos made for elementary schoolers. Aim to spark curiosity and understanding. educationnext.in+1reddit.com+1
• Crash Course Kids: Explains topics like ecosystems, engineering, and space in short, engaging episodes. tempo.txgifted.org+1
• TED‑Ed: Stylishly animated, bite‑sized lessons on questions like “How do jellyfish glow?” tailored for wide age ranges. trendsalife.comtempo.txgifted.org
• PBS Kids / National Geographic Kids: Age‑appropriate videos about animals, places https://pbskids.org/videos

Contact Jim for a free pre-publication copy of Raise Curious Kids: carro1jl@cmich.edu

Raise Curious Kids – Part One

Curiosity isn’t just adorable—it’s a powerful force in a child’s growth.

Today Jim and Ralph move from Capable Kids to Curious Kids.

 When children are encouraged to explore, ask questions, and follow their interests, it stimulates more than just their imaginations.

 Research indicates that curious children tend to do better in school, with stronger skills in reading, math, and memory—even when factors like attention span or socioeconomic background are considered.

But the benefits extend far beyond academics. Curiosity enhances the brain’s ability to solve problems creatively, think critically, and remember information more effectively. It prepares children to be adaptable thinkers who aren’t afraid to experiment, make mistakes, and try again.

So let’s help our kids stay curious!

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Here is a link to You Tubes Curious Kids: https://youtu.be/U4QbjPygpt0?si=BXq9w01SVTXk8iQ3

Jim’s book Oak Island Obsession is now out on Amazon. You can read a sample at: https://a.co/d/a5tduAm

Capable Kids Part 2

Last week Jim and Ralph looked at how parents can help their children to be focused, able to take another’s perspective and communicate effectively. In this episode they look at problem-solving, critical thinking and self-directed learning. Ralph, as always, has a slightly off beat perspective!

 

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Inside Out 2 Trailer: https://youtu.be/LEjhY15eCx0?si=AYAXf9JGBlt1VOIS

Here is an article on the effects of social media on teens and children: https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/social-media-and-mental-health-in-children-and-teens

How to talk to your kids so they will listen: https://www.aswegrowcounseling.com/20-ways-to-talk-so-your-children-will-listen

Sample Jim’s book “Raise Capable Kids”: https://a.co/d/eZ9IyD9

Raising Capable Kids

This week on Psychology Takeaway, Jim and Ralph respond to audience concerns about raising children in today’s world. Ralph shares his growing unease about the direction of modern childhood and education, comparing today’s youth to what Gertrude Stein famously described as “The Lost Generation” a century ago.

This sparks a thought-provoking discussion about what young people truly need to thrive in the 21st century. It's not just the traditional "three Rs"—reading, writing, and arithmetic—nor is it merely digital skills like gaming or content creation.

They explore the realities facing Generation Z (born mid-1990s to early 2010s), who grew up with the internet, and Generation Alpha (born from the early 2010s onward), the first generation entirely born in the 21st century. Gen Alpha has been uniquely shaped by advanced technology, rapid change, and formative experiences like the COVID-19 pandemic.

Jim and Ralph dive into these generational shifts, voicing concerns and offering practical advice for raising capable, resilient kids in a digital age. Tune in!

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• The destruction of Generation Alpha: https://youtu.be/wKmj5p2XmBo?si=aTan9fvkr_J_GSps
• The Hobart Shakespeareans (as mentioned in the episode): https://youtu.be/n1EGzKtR9DE?si=yevTd5g_SRB2VfMc
• Sample Jim’s book “Raise Capable Kids”: https://a.co/d/eZ9IyD9

Marijuana and the Brain: Long-Term Effects Explained by Neuroscientist Kristin Cooper

More on the effects of marijuana use with a special guest Kristin Cooper

Ralph and Jim are joined by neuroscience researcher Kristin Cooper to discuss cognitive decline associated with marijuana use. Like many researchers, she uses animal models (mice) to study long-term effects. But the data gathered applies to humans who have been using stronger and stronger pot over the last 50 years, when the use rate climbed from about 5% to around 50% according to a recent Gallup poll.

They discuss the medical use of marijuana for relaxation and anxiety reduction but point out that the long-term consequences are not well understood. This is where Ms. Cooper’s research sheds some much-needed light.

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Kristin Cooper has been on Psychology Takeaway before. You can hear her at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vfffJAeI3Jc

 An ER doctor shares his thoughts about the dark side of marijuana use that he sees with his patients: https://youtu.be/d9e_0_YCxUs?feature=shared

If you want to follow Ms. Cooper’s research, you can reach her at: coop3k@cmich.edu

The eBook version of Jim’s book on the mystery of the Oak Island Treasure is on Amazon NOW at: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FGWTZQXF

Episode for July 11, 2025 OOPS

We did a great video podcast with neuroscientist Kristin Cooper. We talked to her work exploring the long-term effects of marijuana use.

You are going to want to listen to or view the Podcast.

Unfortunately that will have to be later.

We are having some technical problems publishing the Episode – but we think that we should have the it published by Monday afternoon. Check back then.

Next Friday’s Podcast is on raising capable kids – you won’t want to miss it even if you do not have kids of your own!

Marijuana vs. Tobacco: Myths, Risks & the Road Ahead

This week on Psychology Takeaway, Jim and Ralph go deep into a trend that’s reshaping health behavior in the U.S.: marijuana use has now surpassed tobacco use. What’s driving the shift? Is weed really safer? And what long-term consequences might we be ignoring?

In this special early episode—released ahead of the July 4th holiday—they break down the science, debunk common myths, and explore what psychology tells us about addiction, motivation, and cultural perception. From chronic lung damage to cannabis use disorder, from pain relief to policy gaps, this conversation pulls back the haze to get at what’s fact, what’s fiction, and what might still be forming.

Whether you're a curious listener, healthcare professional, or policymaker, this episode will help you see the cannabis conversation in a new, evidence-based light. 

 

We did this as a video as well as an audio. Check it out: [LINK]

https://youtu.be/xt1jLEwyBHY

 

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 Breaking news on adverse effects: https://youtu.be/yMRJlhdahjc?feature=shared

Why athletes use weed: https://youtu.be/iWCcuu3T0Go?feature=shared

Youth and the Domino Effect: https://www.ted.com/talks/the_domino_effect_youth_and_substance_abuse?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

When Smart People Do Dumb Things

In this thought-provoking episode, Jim and Ralph explore a deceptively simple question: Why do people—often smart, educated, well-meaning people—make irrational, harmful, or downright dumb choices?

We begin with the haunting insights of theologian Dietrich Bonhoeffer, who warned that the greatest threat to humanity may not be evil—but unthinking obedience. From there, we travel through some of psychology’s most famous experiments:

• Milgram’s obedience study, where participants delivered what they believed were deadly shocks
• Asch’s conformity experiment, showing how people abandon truth to fit in
• Zimbardo’s Stanford Prison Experiment, revealing how roles and environments can distort behavior

We then shift to real-world consequences, unpacking how groupthink helped cause the Challenger shuttle disaster—a moment where silence and pressure led to tragedy.

Finally, we look at a different kind of “dumb”: the decades-long search for treasure on Oak Island. Why do people cling to hope, even when reason says let go?

With insights from Dunning-Kruger, pluralistic ignorance, and motivated reasoning, this episode is a crash course in how psychology explains the irrational—and how we might guard against it.

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How Stupid People Become a Threat to Everyone – Cipolla Was Right

https://youtu.be/eql0wxgwFXU?feature=shared

A good short intro to intelligence.https://www.verywellmind.com/theories-of-intelligence-2795035?utm_source=1440-st&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=view-content-pr&user_id=66c4c743600ae15075a4f2b5

Stoics on the topic of stupidity https://youtu.be/d9TaVsF6YUw?feature=shared

The Terrifying Theory of Stupidity You Were Never Meant to Hear – Dietrich Bonhoefferhttps://youtu.be/Sfekgjfh1Rk?feature=shared

 

Watch for- The Treasure Trap: What fuels the Oak Island obsession

Into the pit, uncovering a 230 year old mystery and the minds behind the search

Coming Soon